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Paradox Cure Personal Transformation Foundation

2 hours together


Paradox Cure Personal Transformation Foundation

My work, The Paradox Cure, is powerful – quick, effective, long lasting and meaningful.  You probably got that by now.  You can work with me over the phone, Skype, or in person.

The first time I work with someone I need 2 hours to take them through the powerful foundation of how to accept themselves on a deep level.  This includes all the benefits that I present in The Paradox Cure Transformation Circles with the addition that they get the opportunity and enough time to uncover and move through big stuff that they have resisted for a long time.  Call me (303) 499-5363 to set up your Paradox Cure Personal Transformation Foundation.

So many individuals that have experienced The Paradox Cure have told me that few facilitators, organizations, therapists or other agents of change give you what I do in such a short time, if even at all.  That is how powerful this approach is.  I would so enjoy holding space for you to move through whatever stops you or slows you down from aligning and accepting all of you!

I have waited for 10 years to offer this.  I yearn to share it, because making changes in your life does not have to take so much time, energy and money!

Build Optimal Health

Time Varies

Comprehensive Health

I offer a comprehensive treatment and healing program – Our approach bridges Medical & Alternative worlds with the best in functional medicine, distortive & alternative therapies, with a comprehensive vitalistic program addressing the physical, emotional, mental and spiritual well being.

Years to Current Health

Know that it took years to get to the condition your body is in.  It will take a long time to reclaim your health.  However, you can in just a few months make gains in addressing your malfunction and disease if present with proper testing and follow through on protocols I would recommend.  And it is common to feel better in a few months, but not always.

Build Optimal Health

1— Use functional lab testing to identify malfunctions at the subclinical level

2— Uncover malfunctions overlooked by the medical model

3— Recommend lab-guided, health-building strategies which include drug-free all-natural protocols…

Build Optimal Health

My background is extensive in dealing with health.  Check out my Life Genesis Program™.  Also, I am certified in Function Diagnostic Nutrition (FDN).

What I do works beyond what most people even know is possible.  What I do goes beyond the ability of medical and most alternative health professionals.  BUT, you will have to invest considerable time, money and energy to reclaim your health.  Only you can decide what your health and life is worth.

Unfortunately most people do not know or have access to what works to reclaim health.  For those that do have access, most just don’t do what it takes.  Reclaiming our health is HARD, and the hardest thing is not knowing who to trust.  Most people should not be trusted because they just do not know what it takes.  Many practitioners are one trick ponies.  An acupuncturist will only recommend acupuncture and sometimes some herbs because that is all that they know.

I am comprehensive in my approach, and have listed info below for those of you that might not yet know if you want to work with me.  I hope this info helps earn your trust that I will guide you in a direction to rebuild your health, working towards your optimal health.

How I Aid People To Build Optimal Health

I assist people to make their health way better.  I am part of an emerging field and growing body of work (Functional Diagnostic Health) that bridges the gap between medical care… and self-care …and I offer the bridge so you can learn how to build and maintain optimal health for your body and its unique needs.  This education serves you for the rest of your life.

1— Use functional lab testing to identify malfunctions at the subclinical level

(subclinical = hidden and not bad enough to be noticed nor addressed by doctors, but affects you and is responsible for your health malfunctions and why anyone feels less than awesome!) within:

  • Hormonal balance (this is a master switch that controls a majority of systems that make up what it is to be healthy – when your hormones are off, then many body systems are whacked out and suffer malfunction leading to worsening health and disease throughout your body)
  • Immune system (key to maintaining health in the face of thousands of assaults every day from toxins, bacteria, parasites, fungus, chemicals, stress, bad food, regular tap water)
  • Digestion ability (if your digestion is off, all food and supplements are greatly negated – you can not absorb critical nutrients – Almost everyone has a compromised digestion)
  • Detoxification functioning (if your detoxification is off, you can not deal with added toxins and quickly become overloaded, not able to regain health and continue to decline in many health systems)
  • Intestinal Barrier Systems (this is key to the immune system and almost all health comes down to the functioning of your intestinal barrier)

2— Uncover malfunctions overlooked by the medical model

Just because blood work looks “normal” doesn’t mean your maladies are all in your head, nor that there isn’t something wrong or not working!  Most of us do have malfunctioning, and when uncovered and addressed, we become way healthier, feel amazingly better, live longer with higher quality of life, and more easily avoid disease!

3— Recommend lab-guided, health-building strategies which include drug-free all-natural protocols…

These protocols aid you to support your body’s innate healing ability through:

  • diet – understanding your unique needs for your body to function optimally, based on metabolic requirements (NO fad diet info)
  • rest and sleep – lifestyle, environmental, food and supplement adjustments to get the best rest for you
  • exercise and body movement – what makes sense for your needs and lifestyle to support your body’s optimal functioning
  • hidden internal malfunctions uncovered (such as parasites, bacteria, fungus, hormonal imbalance, digestion issues, detox challenges, immune system breakdown, gut health compromised) that have been creating havoc on your overall functioning
  • supplementation to address and correct malfunctions and support healthy functioning of all your systems according to your unique needs and challenges

Cultivate Passionate Relationships

90+ minutes together per session

Imagine Passionate Relationships

Imagine experiencing deep blissful passion, communication, pleasure, healing, growth and transformation with another through physical and emotional intimacy.  I train individuals and couples how to Grow Big Love.

This Big Love fuels a sustained experience and feeling of “being in love”, or what most people refer to “the spark” that people first feel in the beginning of their relationship.  YES, it is possible to feel great romance and being in love for your entire relationship — decades long!

Relationship Quality

Our relationship quality is a direct consequence of the connection we have to ourselves, to our significant other and the third entity – the relationship itself.  In addition, I find three main critical life skill sets are important to create and experience passionate relationships:

  1. Communicate Authentically
  2. Generate Relationship MOJO
  3. Grow Connection 

Cultivate Passionate Relationships

1 — Communicate Authentically

I begin by using and training the critical life skill, Communicate Authentically, to find out what backlog of issues exist.  Through this skill set of communication, all three of us become aware of what backlog exists, work through some of the issues, identify remaining issues, and determine what willingness to continue exists.  If the willingness to continue exists, then I work with the other two remaining critical life skills, Generate Relationship MOJO and Grow Connection.

2 — Generate Relationship MOJO

Generate Relationship MOJO is about waking up each person’s individual passion and harnessing that power, then taking that individual passion (MOJO) into the relationship.  This is about generating attraction and the man being a man within the relationship, and the woman being a woman in the relationship.  Creative communication uncovers ways to generate MOJO.

All of this MOJO translates into each partner desiring to connect intimately with the other.  Sparks fly.

3 — Grow Connection

Grow Connection is about the logistics of what it takes to make the relationship work between two unique individuals.  We look at lifestyle, relationship style, common endeavors, common activities, and agreements particular to serving each partner.  Growing connection is supposed to be fun and satisfying – it does not have to feel like work.

Relationship NOTES

 Here is a wonderful quote by Courtney A. Walsh that illuminates my notion that current rules around making relationships better is simply off: 

Dear Human: You’ve got it allllll wrong. You didn’t come here to master unconditional love. That is where you came from and where you’ll return. You came here to learn personal love. Universal love. Messy love. Sweaty love. Crazy love. Broken love. Whole love. Infused with divinity. Lived through the grace of stumbling. Demonstrated through the beauty of messing up. Often. You didn’t come here to be perfect. You already are. You came here to be gorgeously human. Flawed and fabulous. And then to rise again into remembering. But unconditional love? Stop telling that story. Love, in truth, doesn’t need ANY other adjectives. It doesn’t require modifiers. It doesn’t require the condition of perfection. It only asks that you show up. And do your best. That you stay present and feel fully. That you shine and fly and laugh and cry and hurt and heal and fall and get back up and play and work and live and die as YOU. It’s enough. It’s Plenty.” ~Courtney A. Walsh~

Current Relationship Information Kills Passion

A lot of information exists on how to make relationships better – some of it terrible, and most of it is simply inadequate.  Cultivating passion requires that a man knows how act as a better man first and foremost,  generate attraction and support the woman in being a woman.  The woman needs to stand in her power, and support and allow the man to act as a man.

The problem with most information on relationships is that it teaches a man to become more like a woman, which kills attraction.  Therefore, the woman creates drama to get attraction going, which can include nagging, cheating, withholding sex and intimacy, becoming depressed, overspending, overeating and many other problems common to bad relationships.  I realize my explanation here is oversimplified, yet more accurate that most realize.

In addition, a lot of relationship information resources are not helpful on how a woman can act as a woman in her own world, versus a woman being a woman in a man’s world.  In other words, a lot of relationship information simply teaches a woman to cope with men while being in a man’s world.  What about the woman learning to act as a woman in a woman’s world, inviting the man to join her?

Desire to Repair & Build Your Relationship?

When two people come to me to repair and build their relationship, I first assess if they both truly desire to continue their relationship.  Questions you can ask yourself to determine if you and/ or your partner want to continue:

  • Do you want to be together?
  • Do you want to stop fighting each other and instead fight for your relationship?
  • If violations of agreements have occurred, are you willing to allow your partner to make amends and then forgive them?
  • Are you willing to not undermine a commitment to the relationship with threats of leaving?
  • Are you willing to commit to a time period where you stay in the relationship without looking for a way out, but only a way in (grow connection and build the relationship)?

Backlog of Issues & Emotions

If the desire to repair and/ or build the relationship is present, other work on the relationship becomes easier.   However, some couples have such a large backlog of issues and emotions that one or both of the couple may not know if they really want to repair and build the relationship.  By communicating authentically, people can discover if desire to repair and build the relationship is strong enough to invest time, money and energy into continuing their relationship.

The Magnificent Life Choice Assessment™

75 minutes together

Expected Assessment Results

  • Greater clarity of where you are at in your life, what you want, what you do not want and what you want to change
  • Understand 1-3 ways that you resist that makes changes for you so hard or stop you from making changes you want
  • Identify support needed to make the changes you want
  • Identify 3+ resources that fast track you to make changes you want
  • Gain hope and energy to take the risks needed to make the changes you want

The Magnificent Life Choice Assessment™


Whatdo you want to do with your life?  This question is huge!  Every time I see a new client, I ask them to deal with this question head on by completing a life assessment for their initial consultation.  This is where I assess and help individuals get greater personal clarity, alignment, direction and support for a magnificent life – the way they define magnificent.

My assessment makes meaning and creates order out of the chaos of your life – giving you clarity, alignment, direction and support.

Four Assessment Questions

1) What works?  What do you like?  What do you feel good about? What is going well?  What are you satisfied with?

2) What does not work?  What do you not like?  What do you feel bad about?  What is going wrong?  What are you dissatisfied with?

3) What do you want to change?  Do you want to change everything that does not work?  Do you want to make changes so things work even better?

4) What has supported you making big changes in the past?  Some examples are: friends, family, professionals, organizations, groups, seminars, classes, workshops, clergy, faith, spiritual practices, avoiding potentially big negative consequences

Guide to Answer Assessment Questions

Give details in your answers – if you write that your career works for you, get more specific.  Does the commute work?  Does your relationship with co-workers work?  Does the amount of money you earn work?

Also you may have things that work and don’t work in one area of your life.  For example, in your career, you may enjoy your relationship with your co-workers and bosses, but the amount of income you earn may not work.  This is OK – write down what works and does not work in each area of life.

I give ideas on exploring areas of life through my Magnificent Six Life Realms™.

My Fees

$150/ hour as a suggested donation.  My work is powerful – quick, effective, long lasting and meaningful.  You probably got that by now.  You can work with me over the phone, Skype or in person.

Sometimes I am open to trades.  However, now I only offer help on a donation basis as I invest almost all of my time healing my wife from Stage 4c cancer – a full time job.  Know that sometimes I need to reschedule for my wife’s health needs or mine.

Contact Me

Mobile (iphone): (303) 499-5363


Skype:  davedonatiu

Hours Available

Mon-Fri 10:00 AM-9:00 PM PST

Sat Noon-6 PM PST

My hours are flexible where under certain conditions I make myself available outside posted hours.   NOTE: I am on Pacific Standard Time (PST) – I live in Cardiff, CA (25 min. drive north of San Diego)

Dave with White Elephant Gift Toy

My Most Hopeless Day...

Christmas day, 2012 – on that morning my soulmate and I questioned what we had to live for.  In great despair we faced a future where she could die from stage 4c cancer, after endless days of efforting to utter exhaustion by the massive work to research, create,  implement and evolve our radical healing program.

Later that day at a Christmas party we realized the importance of community, and from that point onward we engaged in community more consciously.  My joy is obvious as I play with a toy blimp – a White Elephant Christmas gift.

Inspiration or Desperation

Human motivation appears in two basic forms — Inspiration or Desperation.

The Universe grants you the power to choose either route.  If you do not take action out of inspiration, eventually you will be forced  to take action out of desperation.  Action out of desperation is not what you would voluntarily choose.

By not taking action you submit to failure, regret and suffering.

By taking action you birth results, learning, and life.

Which route do you choose?

How many times have you heard professional speakers, writers, teachers, parents or friends say how much you have a choice?  What they don’t usually say is this — choice is worthless unless AND until you take action.

If you realize how much better your life would be in making a different choice but do not take immediate action, nothing changes and you live in desperation.

So choose — a life of inspiration or desperation.  It IS your life!

Dave Donatiu