One man spoke his truth – Remember, men coming up to the mountain have waited centuries for us, for this opportunity. Tears welled up as I felt the truth spoken. Let me explain.
ABANDONMENT — During my dark night of the soul, in November 2012, my mother passed. Not a single man in one of my men’s group called. Some men did not even email, even though they knew of my loss.
Last night at my men’s group we went around and shared our biggest fear and joy of the week. I shared my freak-out over possibly losing Talyaa to her just diagnosed stage 4 metastasized melanoma. Then with great heart I shared my joy from all the outpouring of support we have received. OMG! I did not expect community and support to show up anything close to what we have received!
Week after week I watch and listen to men share their procrastinations, complaints, challenges and broken promises to themselves AND do little that actually changes their situation, their reality. And this time I am angrier than ever. But what I am really angry at is that there is no Universal Tit, and falsely believing in the BIG TIT has prevented me from making big changes in my reality!
After being accused of wanting to ruffle feathers, one man in my men’s group spoke how angry he was that I withheld speaking my truth . He shared that because I have been around the men’s work for decades I should not pussyfoot around, but “cut” men more. Hmmmmm. Pussyfooting? Ruffling feathers? Cutting men? Sounds like a scene out of 50 Shades of Grey. How far do I go in sharing my thoughts, feelings and professional expertise?
Highly successful people are VERY PICKY people in general, and certainly very picky about how they choose! REALLY PICKY. Listen, it is your life. You get to choose most of it, so why are you not choosing most of it? Perhaps you do not know how. OK. Here is a great place to start making your life how you want it to be…